What can you expect from divorce mediation in Connecticut?

Learn how to prepare for mediation to better manage your expectations as well as your intentions for the proceedings.

Couples that are splitting up in the state of Connecticut have a lot of considerations to make, including whether they would be better off with mediation rather than a traditional divorce. While mediation is normally less expensive than divorce and encourages conversation, divorcing couples still need to know what to expect with this option so they can make the best decision for this new chapter in their lives.

There is very little court time

When your divorce is handled by a lawyer, it is common to have to take your case to court on several occasions. Not only that, but litigated divorces are made public while mediation is a private matter. Not only do you not have to worry about your kids seeing their parents in court, you also do not have to deal with the stress that comes with knowing your private and personal matters become public knowledge and come under potential scrutiny. In a mediated divorce settlement, you will almost certainly need to appear in court only one time for the final divorce date.

You will need to bring paperwork to your first session

Because mediators charge by the hour, you will want to be well-prepared for every session. Before your first session, be sure to gather such necessary documents as the following:

● The estimated value of real property

● Pay stubs for the current year and final pay stub for the previous year

● Tax returns for at least 2 years (including W-2s, 1099's and the like)

● Current statements for bank accounts, retirement accounts and investment accounts

● Current car loan statement, mortgage statement, credit card statements and any other loans or debts such as student loans

● Costs related to child care

● Health insurance information

● Life Insurance information

● Monthly bills for utilities, groceries and other such expenses

To help save time and money, it is a good idea to call the mediator before your first session to see if there are any other documents or paperwork you need to bring with you.

Transparency benefits everyone

While you might be tempted to hold back and be a bit distrustful during your mediation, it is best that you operate with full disclosure. Your emotions will undoubtedly be running high, but you have to set them aside to do what is best for your future and the future of any children you might have. If you feel you cannot trust your soon-to-be-ex-spouse, put that trust in your mediator instead.

You will have more control over the proceedings

If you prefer to have more of a say in your divorce, you are likely to be better off with mediation. With more traditional proceedings that involve lawyers rather than mediators, it is the attorneys and the courts that are in the driver's seat. This level of choice in mediation can make the process faster and less emotional for everyone involved.

If you are thinking about getting a divorce in Connecticut and wish to know more about the options available to you, get in touch with Attorney James Cuddy who can help. Attorney Cuddy is an experienced mediator and is readily available to answer any questions or address any concerns you might have.