Parenting is a joint effort that sometimes requires compromise. Even happily married couples do not agree on parenting matters all the time.
Parenting after a divorce can be challenging, but there are many things divorced parents can do to make co-parenting easier.
Share vital information with your ex
Under Connecticut law, both parents have a right to receive information about a child’s health and education unless the court has determined otherwise. Withholding important information is not only against the law, but it also makes co-parenting more difficult.
Avoid denigrating your ex in front of your child
If your divorce is a particularly contentious one, it may be difficult to speak kindly about your former spouse. However, your child has a different relationship with your ex. It is important that you avoid talking badly about your ex to your child. Doing so may make your child feel pressured to choose a side.
Communicate directly with your co-parent
If you need to share information with your child’s other parent, it is generally best to do so directly rather than through your child. Using your child as a messenger can place an unfair burden on your child’s shoulders and might lead to miscommunication with your ex. Direct communication can help ensure that you are both on the same page.
Avoid competing with your co-parent
Resist the temptation to compete for your child’s affection with extravagant gifts or lenient house rules. Some variation in parenting styles is normal, but trying to establish yourself as the favorite parent can backfire.
When you are co-parenting after divorce, some conflict is generally unavoidable. Communication and respect can help you maintain a healthy co-parenting relationship.